Tamar Braxton is definitely in a good place! New mommy and her baby boy graces the cover of EBONY magazine’s upcoming October issue. It is truly an awe moment!
The singer talks about her painful struggle with infertility, while dishing the tea on how she is able to balance her music career motherhood. She even opened up about her past abusive relationship, skin disorder and fears of motherhood. Check out the highlights from the interview below:
No what she will teach her son Logan:
The thing I will always encourage Logan to do is to be the best person he can be. When he sets his goals, we are going to encourage him to meet his goals. Sometimes a lot of guys quit before they get to their goal. The most important thing I’m going to teach him is that, if you haven’t met your goal, then you are not finished. Because you are a man, you have certain responsibilities, and your responsibilities are different than mine as a woman. You don’t have a choice, you have to work, you have to make money because you have to take care of your household, you can not leave that up to your woman.
How we were raised, my dad always took care of the house and sometimes when it is split, when your son gets to be a certain age, he doesn’t understand when it’s time to raise his own son, that he is the one that is supposed to be teaching him. I feel as though a man can only learn to be a man, from a man, so for Logan, I’m banking on Vince to sit down with him and be his role model, and be his best friend because there are things I can’t teach him, because I am not a man.
On not giving in to her pregnancy cravings:
“He’s like, ‘Nope. Don’t do it. You’re gonna be mad.” Vince chimes in, “Even before the pregnancy, she was very conscious about her weight, so I’m just helping her to be a better person.”
On surviving two abusive relationships:
I almost had to tell my story to each individual and then I decided that’s not what I’m going to do. I can’t make anybody believe, I can’t change anybody’s mind about anything. (The abuse,) it happened. I’m not all the way comfortable with sharing a lot of what happened to me (yet), but what I said was true. When I’m ready to talk about my abusive past I will, I’m sorry that I’m not. But if it wasn’t for (God), I wouldn’t be here.”
“I haven’t always been vocal about my feelings, especially in a relationship. Now, I make sure that I’m very vocal about my feelings, everybody knows how I feel. Sometimes it’s over the top and most of the time it’s ‘Team Too-Much,’” she laughs, “But I have to do a lot. (I was) a shy person who had self-esteem issues trying to figure it out — now, I’ve gotten over my hangovers. You say, I’m comfortable and confident, it took a long time to get there. Maybe like a year or so before Braxton Family Values, I wasn’t that person. I was faking it til I make it, pretty much…..
“I didn’t feel like I was beautiful. I didn’t feel like I deserved things. I didn’t feel like I could stand in a room and speak or even sing and have people who wanted to listen.”
On her skin disease Vitiligo”
Anybody with skin issues knows that that’s a very sensitive subject. And that’s why I’ve never shared that I have Vitiligo, because I do. I’ve always had it, since I was a young girl. It’s not as bad as others because everybody has it differently, but I’ve certainly had mine diagnosed. That’s why I tan. People say, “You bleach your skin!” But I tan just so I can have a better tone on my skin, boo!
It’s gotten worse since I’ve gotten pregnant. If you shake my hand now, to me it’s more noticeable. But when you get diagnosed with a skin disorder, it’s hard. It does weigh on your self-esteem. It really does. But I’m done defending that. I’m not bleaching my skin and if I was bleaching my skin and I felt like saying so, I would, but for the record, I am not.
On rumors of plastic surgery:
“I don’t have plastic surgery. I never had plastic surgery. I had a nose procedure done because I had to. I had no cartilage in my nose, I have a piece of cartilage from my ear put into my nose. I had a medical procedure done. I have no plastic in my nose. And when I shared that with the world, now I have Botox, and different kind of fillers. Now I touch my face, which I never touch my face…Everything is real on me.”
On why her husband Vince is her soulmate:
“The thing that I love the most about (Vincent) is that he’s helped me with accepting what happened to me and helped me realize that that’s not my make-up, (being abused) is not who I am, it hasn’t hindered who I am, it hasn’t stopped my integrity. I really appreciate him more and more everyday.”